Marriage and God’s Blessing

Does God Honor All Marriages?

I am a brother in Christ and I want to know, Does God honors all marriages?

A: Your question is one that is on a lot of people’s hearts and minds. In recent years the number of divorces in our country has outpaced the number of marriages. This has affecting many people both within and without the church.

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Marriage isn’t a Convenience, it is a Covenant.

First, I want to make sure that you understand that God loves everyone (Romans 5:8). He sent his Son Jesus to die for everyone (John 3:16) and God wants everyone to be saved (2 Peter 3:9). However, we must be saved upon God’s terms, not our own (Ephesians 2:8). So we must be obedient if we want God to save us (Hebrews 5:8,9).

Having said those few things, we should look to the word of God in regard to marriage, as it is an area in which we must be obedient to Him. When we look at the Bible teaching on marriage, we find the law of marriage mentioned in Matthew 19:5, 6. “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” This is God’s law of marriage. From the beginning, Jesus says, God made them male and female. Neither Adam nor Eve had been in a marriage before. God joined them together. Jesus says that when a man and a woman leave their father and mother and are married for the first time to each other, that is acceptable to God. Once they are married, God joins them together. No MAN can separate them. So someone who has never been married before is a candidate for marriage. This is God’s law of marriage.

Jesus gives one exception to this rule in Matthew 19:9. He says, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” When a couple divorces and either party remarries again, they commit adultery and are not acceptable to God. The only exception to this rule is in the case where one of the partners in the marriage commits fornication. When this occurs, the partner who is innocent of fornication (adultery) may divorce and remarry. So, here we have candidate number two. The person who has divorced his/her spouse because the spouse committed fornication (adultery), is a candidate for marriage. This is God’s law for divorce.

We have one more person who is a lawful candidate for marriage. In Romans 7:2. Paul writes here, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.” When someone’s spouse dies, they are a candidate for remarriage. Paul calls this, the law of the husband. In this regard, see also 1 Corinthians 7:39.

There are some who say that there is a fourth candidate for marriage based upon Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7:15 which says, “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” Some say that “not under bondage” means not under bondage to God’s law of divorce, and that therefore, they can remarry again. However, the text does not warrant this. First, by saying this, Paul would be in clear contradiction with the Lord on this point. The Lord gave one exception. Surely if He had wanted to give another exception, he would have done so in Matthew 19:9. To what law, then is she “not under bondage?” This woman in 1 Corinthians 7 is a Christian and has an obligation to God’s law of marriage, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Her husband is putting her marriage asunder. Is she now going to be condemned by God because her marriage is being broken? I believe that Paul is saying that she is not under bondage to pursue the marriage in this situation. NOTE: This situation only applies to the believer who is married to an unbeliever. This does not apply to unbeliever married to unbeliever, or believer married to believer. Many want to use this text as an excuse to end a marriage, but that is not the purpose of it. God wants us to keep our marriages whole because he hates divorce (Malachi 2:16).

There are also some that say that non-Christians may divorce and marry as many times as they wish before they become Christians, but after they become Christians, they may no longer behave in such a way. The Bible rejects this idea because God’s law applies to all men whether they are Christians or not. All men will stand before the judgment seat of Christ one day and give an account of the things they have done in the body (2 Corinthians 5:10). God will judge those who have disregarded his law of marriage and divorce whether they are Christians or not. We also read in 2 Thessalonians 1:8 that God will render vengeance on those that “obey not” the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus started preaching the gospel when he began his ministry (Matt.4:23, Mark 1:1, Luke 4:18). Are we to say that the teaching regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage that Jesus gave in Matthew 19:9 is NOT part of the gospel? The inspired writers certainly thought it was. Who am I to disagree with them?

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Playing with Praise

Stop Playing With God’s Praise

“I appreciate the ride home very much Joe, thanks,” Chuck said as both he and his co-worker climbed into Joe’s car Thursday afternoon after work. “I didn’t think it would take two days at the garage.”

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Praise God As He Has Stated.

“No problem Chuck,” Joe replied. “I’ve been wanting to talk with you anyway about something and this’ll be a good chance to do that.”

“What’s on your mind, Joe?” Chuck asked cheerfully.

“It’s about the whole instrumental music thing we discussed a little bit ago. Now I really appreciated the whole ‘pearls and puzzles’ illustration and everything – and I understood it very well. But really, what’s the big deal about instrumental worship music anyway? None of the other churches I’ve ever tried seem to have a problem with it. And besides, I was just talking to my brother whose father-in-law is a Baptist preacher, and he said that the bible never says we can’t use it, so why the fuss?” Joe blurted out all at once, wondering what Chuck’s response would ultimately be. After all, he thought to himself, if God had as big a problem with it as Chuck and the church of Christ seemed to think, then surely there should be some biblical reason… right?

“He’s exactly right, Joe,” Chuck responded. “There is no New Testament verse anywhere, specifically stating that we are not to use instruments in our songs of praise.”

Joe smiled smugly. “Finally!” He thought.

“There doesn’t have to be,” Chuck continued, “and here’s why. When God specifies for us exactly what He does want, He doesn’t have to tell us all the things that that means He doesn’t want. We see this in multiple passages throughout scripture. For example, in Leviticus 10:1-2, God incinerated two of his priests, Nadab and Abihu. Do you know what for Joe?” Joe shook his head no, wondering why he’d never heard a sermon about these two before…

“For using fire on God’s altar that He had not specifically told them to,” Chuck continued. “You see, God had told them very specifically where they were to get the fire from to place on His altar, and when He did, it automatically excluded all other sources. He didn’t have to expressly tell them all the other places in the world that they were not to get fire from; when He told them where they were to, that excluded all others. What it really boils down to is a matter of faith and trust in God.”

“The same can be said for King David, the great ‘man after God’s own heart.’ God had given extremely specific instructions as to how He wanted the Ark of the Covenant moved; it was to be borne on the shoulders of the Levites. David however, had a different idea. Duplicating the precedent of those pagans who did not know God’s specific instructions, David tried to move the Ark using two milk cows and a cart. God was so angry with David that He killed Uzzah the priest as a sign of His divine displeasure. Why was God so angry? –Remember: He had not specifically said His people couldn’t use the cart and cows – but He didn’t have to! When God had instructed that the Ark was to be borne on the shoulders of the Levites, that excluded all other options – without God having to list every single one! And the reason for His divine displeasure was because David didn’t exhibit enough faith and loyalty to God, to do it exactly the way God had said!

Remember, Jesus said, ‘If you love Me, you’ll obey My commandments.’ Hebrews 11 records many examples of the fact that in order to be pleasing to God, we must have faith enough in Him to do exactly what He said, exactly the way He said to do it. And I can show you eight bible passages regarding the type of music God requires in New Testament worship, and every single one of them says ‘sing.’ But neither you nor your brother’s preacher can show me one single New Testament verse where God says to ‘play’ can you Joe?” Joe shook his head somewhat hesitantly.

“And when God says ‘sing,’ He doesn’t have to follow that up with, ‘Now what I mean by that is, don’t whistle, don’t hum, don’t play an instrument,’ don’t whatever,’” Chuck continued. “Can you imagine how thick that would make our bibles? By stating specifically how He does want something done, God has successfully eliminated all other kinds of… well, ‘fire’ if you’re Nadab and Abihu; ‘Ark transportation’ if you’re David; or ‘musical expression’ if you’re a New Testament Christian.”

“And instrumental music is a different form of music than vocal or acapella,” Joe said thoughtfully.

“Yes; and to show just how serious God is about this ‘silence’ – or not having to note all the exceptions when He gives specific instructions – consider that, according to Hebrews 7:13-14, even though God’s message through Moses ‘spoke nothing’ concerning priests and whether or not they could come from the tribe of Judah, He didn’t have to! When He said they must be from the tribe of Levi, that settled it – even to the point that His perfect Son, Jesus Christ Himself could not have served as the one exception,” Chuck said. “Take a good look at that passage when you get home tonight Joe. It really proves the point. God doesn’t have to tell us not to use instruments in order for it to be so. All He has to do is exactly what he did. And when He said ‘sing,’ eight times, that settled it.”

“Wife called and asked me to stop and pick up a couple of gallons of milk and a loaf of bread,” Joe said as he pulled into the local Hopeland grocery store. “And she didn’t have to say, ‘Now what I mean by that is don’t buy eggs, bologna, paper towels, bottled water, or anything else. When she said ‘a couple of gallons of milk and a loaf of bread,’ that eliminated all those other things,” Joe conceded. “I see what you mean. We use that logic everyday – it’s not just a bible thing.”

Chuck nodded. “And it would be a ‘big deal’ if you instead brought home something other than what she specifically called to tell you to, wouldn’t it Joe – such as a bottle of laxative and a bag of onions? But because you love your wife and trust her to know what she’s talking about, you simply go in and get her what she wants, without her having to state what she doesn’t, don’t you Joe? So why should it be any different with those that love the Lord?”

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No Thrill?

The Thrill is Gone

This life is definitely filled with ups and downs, highs and lows, as the famous Blues guitarist B. B. King sings about in his hit “The Thrill Is Gone.” Sadly, many people today, including Christians, base their happiness and contentment on the various circumstances they find themselves in physically. We place so much emphasis on material things, physical things, and emotional things that we exacerbate the highs and lows.

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Is the Thrill gone?

Here is what we need to understand as Christians. We often live our lives as if joy and happiness are wrapped up in material things or people. But when the brother came to Jesus wanting Him to settle an inheritance dispute Jesus responded to the people, “Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses” (Luke 12:15). Now we know this cognitively, but it is not how we live emotionally!

The Lord does not want us to ever be without joy in our lives. In fact He said that we might have an abundant life (John 10:10). Are things going to be difficult at times? Will times get tough? Certainly, we live in a world that is sin cursed and temporal. Yet in Luke 6:22–23 Jesus said that when we are hated, excluded, and reviled, because of Him we are to rejoice and “leap for joy!” Why? Because your “reward is great in heaven.”

When we are in Christ nothing should move us! God fills us with “joy and peace in believing” (Romans 15:13). In fact one of the fruits of the Spirit produced by Christians is “joy” (Galatians 5:22). Notice the inspired words of Peter concerning living a joyful, happy life in 1 Peter 3:8–12:

Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing. For “He who would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit. Let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the LORD are on the righteous, and His ears are open to their prayers; but the face of the LORD is against those who do evil.”

For the obedient, faithful Christian the thrill never goes away! But for those outside of Christ and those who are not faithful there is no hope (Ephesians 2:12). To ensure that the joy and peace that never fades away and which allows us to live a full and happy life abides within us be must hear the message that brings the Good News into our hearts (Romans 10:17), we must repent of our worldly, sinful ways (Acts 17:30), we must confess the name of Jesus (Romans 10:10), and we must be baptized into Christ (Acts 2:38; Acts 8:39). Then we must be faithful (1 Peter 3:8–12).

Is your thrill gone? Be faithful

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Fools and their Anger

Fools and their Anger

Tom is driving down the road. He has his radio playing light jazz and he is moving along with the speed of the end of the day traffic. His mind is paying attention to the surroundings about him, but he is also thinking about the weekend soon to come. He is really looking forward to getting home to his wife and children. Presently, he hears loud long blasts of a car horn next to him. When he turns his head to look he observes another man all red faced, eyes bulging, apparently screaming at the top of his lungs. The man’s voice cannot be heard through two closed windows, road noise, and the radio, but it is obvious he is not trying to share a prayer. Quite clearly, he does mention God’s name a few times and makes a number of crude gestures. Next, he swiftly accelerates down the road weaving in and out of traffic. “What was that about?” Tom thinks to himself, then he mutters, “What a fool.”

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Fools and Their Anger

Situations like Tom’s happen every single day in cities across the world. There are incidents when it is very clear why the anger is being demonstrated and other times when the recipient of the anger has no idea what is going on. “Road Rage” is not the only form of anger that man encounters each day. Whether at work, the shopping center, a sporting event, or at home, sad performances of anger are not infrequent. Unfortunately, many occurrences of anger will escalate into physical confrontations and injury to property or persons. Anger often engages the two characteristics of fools that have been discussed in this series thus far: disobedience to God’s will and uncontrolled speech. These are sinful works of the flesh and anger can certainly be sinful.

Galatians 5:19-21 – Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

It may be surprising to some to see anger included in a list such as this. It is and it carries the same penalty as the other sins mentioned. However, a discussion of consequences is to be saved for the final article in this series. The objective here is to understand the relationship between fools and anger. As with both disobedience and the speech of a fool, anger and the behaviors that go with it are a choice. Contemplate the following example and the likely difference between the reactions to a stray, growling tea cup poodle that has stolen a hot dog off a man’s plate, and a stray, growling German Shepherd that has stolen a hot dog. The tea cup poodle is probably hollered at and either stomped into the ground or punted 50 yards away. The German Shepherd is more likely spoken to gently and calmly while the owner of the hot dog backs away. The same event happened, but with different results. What was the difference? The difference was the choice to exert self control instead of exploding in anger.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 – Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.

The Bible is once again clear as to the behavior of fools. The term “hasty” used in the verse above means “quickly”. Consider these other verses which mention the same issue in regard to the foolish.

Proverbs 12:16 – A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.

Proverbs 14:17 – He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.

A “prudent man” or wise man, “covereth shame”. This means he holds his anger in and does not shame himself. He understands that with such anger a poor example is given. The man who has no control over his temper loses influence and respect. Now it is at this point, that critics of the Biblical prescription for behaviors will point out that God is presented as wrathful or angry (I Kings 11:9-10, John 3:36) as well as Jesus when he walked the earth (Mark 3:5, John 2:13-17). There is no need to deny such occurrences, but understanding is in order. Examine the following:

Ephesians 4:26 – Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

In this passage anger is commanded, but anger with the absence of sin. Such anger is called righteous indignation. It does not diminish with the falling of the sun, but always burns against sin. The anger is best understood as a form of disappointment. God does not want man to do things which bring harm to himself and others. Christ did not want to see men reject the commands of God or defile the holy things of God. In their anger, no sin was committed. Yet, often with man, we see sinful anger. It is an anger which is chosen and exercised with blasphemy, vanity, and intent to harm. It is anger which is not controlled but a swift and raging storm which brings destruction. Yes, anger is commanded against sin. However, the wise man with self control approaches anger with a patient concern for the recipient as God does.

Proverbs 16:32 – He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

James 1:19 – Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

Titus 1:7 – For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre;

Psalms 103:8-9 – The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy. He will not always chide: neither will he keep his anger for ever.

That sinful anger exists and is a temptation is certainly a fact. Every young man’s testosterone rages at times. Shamefully, such behavior is often carried through into adulthood. Jobs are lost. Friendships are severed. Marriages are shattered. Lives can be destroyed. All of these because foolish choices resulted in poor behavior. And without a doubt, these behaviors are not only applicable to males. Women too make such mistakes. Words are hurled, violence is engaged, and reputations deeply scarred because of ungodly behavior. The realization of the battle that exists to control such actions is indeed great and at times the anger is aimed even at God.

Proverbs 27:3 – A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both.

Proverbs 19:3 – The foolishness of man perverteth his way: and his heart fretteth against the LORD.

The greatest shame for a fool is not in the loss of control, but a refusal to change course. God desires man to change his ways (Luke 13:3, Revelation 3:19). God will forgive (I John 1:9). A number of people when they foolishly rage, come to erroneously believe that God cannot forgive. He will forgive and he will give strength to those who come to him and ask for it (Philippians 4:13, Romans 8:31). The question is: if a man has been a fool with regard to anger, will he make the choice to change?

Colossians 3:8 – But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

The next article in this series, “Are You a Fool? Part 4”, will examine “Fools and Their Knowledge”.

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In God We Trust – Or Not

In God We Trust – Or Not

In God We Trust

In God We Trust

If you’re a Facebook user, chances are pretty good that every few months you see one of those chain messages being passed around about how newly-minted American money is going to remove “ In God We Trust ” from its inscriptions. While those messages aren’t true as of this point, they do tend to cause quite a bit of controversy and uproar among Christians who believe that one key phrase will no longer be in use. During last Thursday’s episode of Focus Press Radio (Tuesdays and Thursdays at 10 am and 4 pm Central, kttradio.org) we had a discussion about how the folks at the ACLU were doing their best to make sure the phrase “ In God We Trust ” was kept out of all civic Independence Day celebrations. Other efforts in recent years have been made to remove public displays of the Ten Commandments and to keep “ In God We Trust ” off of new monuments because of the flawed interpretation of the concept of separation of church and state.

My question to all of this uproar over keeping “ In God We Trust ” off of public money, buildings, and anything else is this: Who cares?

By that I don’t mean that In God We Trust shouldn’t be written on public displays or that it doesn’t matter that certain people are trying to erase the phrase. I’m simply pointing out that we should reconsider our thoughts on this issue and ask what the point is, what we’re really fighting for.

The problem is that we are more concerned with whether In God We Trust is engraved on blocks of stone or metal coins than we are with it being engraved on people’s hearts. Consider where we stand today: God’s name is currently inscribed all over the buildings in Washington, D.C., yet our nation has still legally slaughtered over 50 million innocent babies in the womb, marriage has been repeatedly compromised by laws and court rulings decade after decade, and the percentage of people in this country who actually recognize Jesus as Lord of all creation by their actions rather than just saying it is embarrassingly low. Much like the church in Laodicea in Revelation 3, our trust is not in God but in our wealth. They trusted in their wealth, their lavish clothing, and their revolutionary medical care. We trust in our wealth, our security, and our heritage as a nation that once saw God as the supreme ruler of the universe.

Are we not like the Pharisees John the immerser preached against in Matthew 3, who put their trust in their Abrahamic bloodline? They were always pointing to the past and defending it with their lives while completely ignoring the teachings that affected their hearts and how they treated those around them. When we defend our national spiritual heritage without  It doesn’t matter who you are or what your past is if you aren’t serving God in the present.

So, I’ll ask again: Who cares if In God We Trust is still on our buildings or coins if people don’t believe it? We have to remember that our work is about souls and the eternal consequences of disobedience. Buildings and coins won’t endure the fires of hell if they don’t bear God’s name, but people will. When we share articles on Facebook about how our nation is turning from God if we take His name off of things but don’t care to share the Gospel with our neighbor, we’ve completely missed the point. Our nation is taking God’s name off of its monuments because it has turned from God, not the other way around. Don’t just fight for the monument, fight for the souls of the people who want to deny God.

In God We Trust means nothing if people don’t actually trust God. That’s just basic logic. If we want to live in a nation and a world where that phrase truly means something again and can be spoken freely in every place, we have to become the salt and light that Jesus called His followers to be in Matthew 5. We have to take the Great Commission upon ourselves and show people why they need to put their trust in God.

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